I have another thought rattling around my head;
I know it’s really easy for people to assume a man or masc person getting help with something is simply wielding false incompetence - or that that they view whoever is helping as a maid or a servant.
But I need people to stop blanket assuming shit like this. If it’s all just things you’re seeing rather then a bad situation you’re being told about directly; Take a step back and ask yourself if you might be misconstruing a situation you don’t have all the context for.
Example; I need meals made for me, I need help with basic chores, I need help getting myself drinks, I need help caring for pets. Outwardly, I look fine - but the thing a lot of people with no inside perspective don’t know that I’m actually severely disabled. What might be a simple task for someone else could wipe me out for days. And because of this I’ve actively had people call me a “man child” when I admit I need help with these things, and say they feel bad for my partners having to “baby me” because of this.
I’ve seen so many threads bashing men and masc folks as a whole for not being able to cook for themselves, do chores entirely by themselves, ect ect ect.
You’re hurting people in the crossfire - especially disabled men + masc folk, and men + masc folk who have suffered abuse (since abusers often intentionally don’t teach their victims life skills in order to keep them dependent).




